De-Stressing the Somatic System | A short meditation

via Embodied Philosophy

AUDIO MEDITATION: Cupping Your Eyes

Sometimes when we – or a client – is experiencing stress or internal dysregulation, we can help the nervous system reregulate by using kind and thoughtful touch.

Touch can be a positive nurturing resource for us. Touch can restore our sense of safety and being.

When we touch our eyes, with tenderness, care, and positive intention, we become more balanced and able to regulate our own nervous system.

Because so much of our outward hypervigilance is connected with our visual scanning system, cupping the eyes, in particular, helps us regain a sense of our own connection with our inner experience.

If we have been spending a lot of energy moving outward with our attentional focus and thoughts, it is important to allow ourselves a moment to recalibrate and be in touch with our inner world as well -- and to know that it is safe enough for us to simply be with ourselves in this moment, too.

Cupping the eyes helps us restore our inner sense of balance, reset our nervous system, and recalibrate to our inner experience.

This meditation is provided by Albert Wong, PhD, the Director of Somatic Psychology of John F Kennedy University and founder of the educational platform, Somatopia (www.somatopia.com). He maintains a private counseling and consulting practice centered around somatic psychotherapy (www.dralbertwong.com). 

Below is the short meditation by Dr. Albert Wong. I practiced it on my own and loved the feeling it gave me- which led to me sharing it with you. This has inspired me to dive a bit deeper in the human nervous system to offer that knowledge to my own practice and teachings.

enjoy!

https://convertkit.s3.amazonaws.com/assets/documents/11463/2316853/Cupping_the_Eyes.mp3

Samantha Feinerman
GROUNDING
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Over the last week, we explored the concept of grounding in class.

G R O U N D I N G:

Grounding down

Getting connected

Rooting down

Planting

Plugging In

…to what?

The surface and everything beneath it, the ground itself, Earth.

A practice of remembering how to reconnect and stay connected while we move, explore the realms, figure things out, and do all the things. Cultivating both an internal and external sense of grounded-ness that steadies us as life twists, turns, spins and whirls often taking us with it. Like being swirled and sucked up into a tornado. It’s hard to know where the ground is and how to get back down to it.

The to-do lists, the obligations, and the plans. The further aspirations, goals, dreams, and desires. The sudden shifts and unexpected happenstances. Situations that uproot us or make us feel less connected in mind or body or spirit. The moments of getting “caught up” and “swept up”. The times of rush and business - busy-ness. Heightened experiences. Flighty, flurried, whirlwind-like times. The types of experiences we all end up having that make it feel like we have somehow lost our own footing and leave us hungry for a sense of connection back down to Earth.

The forgetting that the Earth is always beneath us and is, for us, the ultimate source of grounded-ness is a continuous loop we experience in life warranting the often needed reminder that Nature guides us back to that sense of knowing what we are, who we are. It steadies our senses, our minds and heals our bodies. We are and always will be rooted to the Earth and the Earth will always provide as a charging station for our biological, physiological & spiritual needs. Bringing our awareness back down. Turning toward what is most basic, simple, fundamental and below the other layers of movement and existence. Not so we can avoid being swept up again, but so we only continue to stay more and more grounded as we look to reach new heights and get the most out of our lives.

In the yoga practice there is a common phrase and cue:

Root To Rise

It's a truth and an instruction we come back to when we gather on our mats every single time which invites us to ground down before anything else. Root down. Why? To rise up. Establish our footing- whether it actually be on foot, hand, head or any other part of the body. Getting grounded is therefore a practice of remembering and honoring where and what we come from and remembering that ground we are building life on top of. It is becoming conscious of how we plant with our physical bodies and tuning in to how we connect through our minds and hearts. It is a a practice of remembering to visit our base and always know where the energy is coming from. We take a closer look at how we plug into our mats, the floor, the ground, the Earth. Our foundation. How is it set? Is it grounded or is it beginning on bad footing. Are we truly established as our hands meet the mat. Are we digging in or are we already building a shape that is slightly aloft?

As we find what connects us and how we plug ourselves into the “ground” we begin to cultivate a steadiness within ourselves as we grow and prepare to reach and rise further and further. We connect to the element of the Earth, the Earth itself by planting ourselves intentionally and then we simply receive the benefit of the support the ground beneath your provides. Literally and figuratively. We form our tactile sense of touch through connecting to our environment and from those connections we receive and process information and learn through our functional and mutual relationship with what is around us.

The further we go, the better we feel as we continue to stay informed and connected, on a deep physiological level, to our world and the things in it that make us feel steady and calm, supported, and rooted. Our world, our environment, Nature, offers us a connection to our deepest, fullest selves and continuously serves as the incredible foundation from which to grow.


During my classes last week I referred to a practice called ‘Earthing’. A real practice that goes a step further in getting to the ‘root’ of the issue of general human disconnection and all of the different side effects that has continued to cause.

In class we discussed how we connect to our mats both generally and in each pose as a way of bringing awareness to what it is we ground down with in the first place. We reflected on the common way we as humans make our physical grounding connection in our daily lives- our feet. With every step we connect to the Earth in some way, even if it is separated from the truest form of earth by a few degrees. You know… fabricated floors, concrete, shoes and all of those things that get our skin and the actual ground further away from each other. And so was I digging into this theme for class I remembered this Earthing practice and couldn’t help but bring it up in class as a thing that is now proving to bring us back to our healthy, human Nature. It’s something I think we all do in one way or another without thinking about it, but most of us don’t do enough of consciously or fully.

So here is an easy resource to read through about the practice of Grounding, also known as Earthing! May it inspire you to get out into Nature, even if it’s somewhere close by, just to get your fix of dirty feet and the complete recharging that comes with that!


https://chopra.com/articles/grounding-the-human-body-the-healing-benefits-of-earthing


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Samantha Feinerman
Prepare for the Best, the Worst and the Unexpected: a reminder that things will always 'just' happen
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Last month I added a new class to my weekly teaching schedule at the yoga studio. I took it on so excited to finally get a 90 minute long practice class there. Something that wasn’t aligning for the last year or more until now. The studio is a cool 20ish minutes from where I live. Less without traffic. But being a 9am class on a Monday morning, I anticipated a traffic situation that would change the commute time.

In February when my partner and I moved into our new home, my commute time to all of the places I teach shifted quite a bit. One of the most dramatic shifts was for my earliest class in the middle of the week. While talking to my partner about potential traffic issues in the earlier morning, my partner told me about this cool feature on Google Maps where you can plug in the time and day that you’re looking to travel and it will give you it’s best projection of commute time and traffic average. And it even gives you the opportunity to set an alert on the app so you can be reminded of when to leave so you can get to your destination at your ideal arrival time.

The future!

This app and this feature gave me a whole new perspective of life and preparedness potential. I don’t use it very often but when things come up where I’m really unsure or have a pretty brand new route to take and punctuality being sought, it’s super handy.

Now back to this new class I added.

In being aware of rush hour traffic both on highways and streets going from where I live through to where the studio is, I wanted to be sure to leave the house at the right time to get to the studio with no less than 15 minutes before class so that I had time to settle in and get in some before-class-time in the studio. So of course, I decided to use this app to optimize!

The alert was set the day before so that I could be at the studio by 8:45am. The GPS traffic map and route all seemed to match the projection from the night before and it looked like I’d be at the yoga studio on time!

Until I got on the road and hit 2 bouts of local road work that clogged up one street that was only 2 lanes and the other which was only 1 lane for about 2 miles. Traffic added to the regular morning street clogging.

There was absolutely no way to plan for this. It just was what happened this morning. Light anxiety came up while sitting parked behind cars for minutes at a time. Not the worst traffic ever, but traffic getting me closer to being late for my own class.

Luckily, even with the traffic, I made it to the studio at just about 9am on the dot. An honest 3 minutes after. I walked into the studio and found a room full of wonderful, patient and excited students instead of frustrated ones (which I would have understood). And I had a really inspired theme with too perfect of a story to connect to it in class this week studying the First Principle of Anusara Yoga:

Set the Foundation and Open To Grace


Set The Foundation

Which I like to think of and use in my own life as first principle for everything.

As I write out this short story connecting to the theme this week and talk about in class, I laugh because I’m not the most intense preparer. Going with the flow and over time, simply being more conscious of things has been more my way of doing things. Over the years though and through learning this idea most deeply through the Anusara practice, I’ve realized and found that there is a version of what our best and highest efforts are, a way of looking at how we set ourselves up as we move through our different intentions and goals. And being more conscious and active in how we continuously work toward things, no matter how big or small those things are, essentially become the clearest pathways to success.

Success, I’ve found, has become a word and idea that can often put a gap between our efforts to prepare for things and the actual outcome itself. A gap that can get filled with anxiety, stress, disappointment, anger, a sense of failure. Maybe you have your own feelings from experiences you’ve had that could fill in that blank space. And none of those things are wrong things to feel or things that wouldn’t be understandable when things don’t actually go according to plan. Especially when we have done everything we can to get ourselves ready for whatever it is we were setting ourselves up to do, have, or experience.

Open To Grace

So what attitude or philosophy are we connecting to when things don’t go according to plan? When the GPS tells you that everything is perfect for you to get that ideal arrival time but one- NO- two! lane closures and 20 more minutes added to the commute later you end up parking when the class is supposed to start and walking into your job after everyone there for your service. Or when you show up later than that? When the exam doesn’t go according to the amount of time you put in studying. When you don’t land the job you prepped hard for all the interviews and resume revamps for. I could go on.

We can be excellent preppers, but something I like to ask when it comes to this is:

how much of this preparation is to lead me to the highest outcome?

or

how much of this preparation is to control the outcome?

We can’t control everything. I really believe that we all know that even if we don’t all live by that. And I really believe that even if some of us know that, we can tend to forget that life does not move in a line and definitely not based on our plans alone. There’s more at work than our sole mind, body and heart. There is always something bigger than ourselves that can really throw us for a loop in either a really incredible way or in a way that makes us feel unlucky. Either all of our work led us to what we planned, to something even better, or it really didn’t work out the way we planned.

Our capacity to be open to everything that is beyond our individual plan becomes the other pathway toward higher perspective. Giving us the power to reduce the negative energies, ideas and feelings that flood the gap as things slowly begin to turn a different direction then planned and find ourselves more at ease and light-hearted about the twists and turns life takes despite our best preparation.


The First Principle of the practice reminds us that our first and highest priority is the fundamental element that will support the highest potential or the highest outcome- no matter the outcome. But in truly connecting to that, we don’t just connect to what we are doing and plan to do, we also make just as much space for what else there may be and for what is beyond us. Things that could interject and interfere in both ways that we find agreeable and not. And in connecting to both first, everything else is truly being created and manifested with as much of what we can offer as possible while honoring the uncontrollable rest of the Universe.

Whatever happens happens. And as an incredible wise human being once said as we made our way to the airport for a flight he was pretty sure he was going to miss and couldn’t do anything about:

“That’s just what happened”

Because things just happen. There will always be an element of chance, luck and happenstance. No matter how much effort we put into preparing for the best and the worst. And we can use our energy to prepare as best as we can and that will always be perfectly, good enough and even that will continue to evolve and refine as we grow. We can boost our productivity and efficiency and creativity and output. We just may not always end up landing exactly where we thought we would. And the hope is that in practicing embodying our own preparedness and our own openness and cultivating a way of moving from pose to pose using those two tools at the same time- we find a freedom and a joy in all the different ways in which we do things both on and off the mat. We bridge the gap between preparation and outcome with a smile and a calm knowing that it might turn out differently. Who knows? And when it does we’re able to say, “I guess that’s just what happened”. Smile. And move on to the next thing without any extra weight being dragged from the last.

Ultimately, what I continue to learn from the yoga practice is that we can prepare for life as much as we want and with all the effort we have but in the end, the rest is up to the Universe. The continuously hard truth that we can’t control it all is also a freeing agent. We can’t control it all! It’s not all on us. And our best is and will always be perfectly good enough. It feels good to be able to do and it can feel just as good to allow things to happen.

May we be open, trusting and full of faith in both our efforts and in the mysterious ways in which the Universe works.


Samantha Feinerman
The Joy in Play
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the practice:

Playfulness is a quality the yoga practice teaches us is an inherent part of who we are, though we also recognize is a part of us we tend to forget about as we grow. As we grow, our innately playful spirit becomes overshadowed by ego, rules and life making it far too easy to take things seriously as we go about carving out our maturing and evolving paths. The need to do things and the need to do things well enough to achieve and succeed culture such a dominating ritual that it bends our perspectives to only see fun and joy as only existing in certain situations and only allowed in certain ways or at certain times.

When we were much younger it was recess or after-school when we could play with our friends, pull our heads out of our books and connect to things with less rigidity. Later on, in my memory, it is connected to bigger ideas like vacations or bigger school breaks, field trips. Maybe play was found through an outlet like sports or art, games, social and community activities. Play time was time to connect and explore what was possible through that play. Anything is possible in that time and in that space and with that quality blanketed over.

Somehow over time, it can feel like there is less and less play and more and more work and obligation. And perhaps on the surface those notions mostly ring true. But the yoga practice teaches us through it’s philosophy that the concept of play and the quality of playfulness is within us already. We just tend to forget. And our tendency to forget is linked to our forgetting to stay connected to it within ourselves. The place within that harbors the quality of seriousness- hardening and adding weight to our life by creating a border of strict sincerity around it and most things is the same place that harbors our playfulness. That place, what we believe to be our hearts, has the same potential and capacity to be light-hearted.

The energy of lightheartedness is airy and light. It is the quality of Nature that manifests and creates. The part of us that absorbs and connects us to what is going on more flexibly because we are being more cohesive with what is around us. Whether the experience or circumstance is what we think of as fun or play, we get more out of it. Simply because we are engaging with a positive attitude. We learn through play more easily than we learn through hard-fenced barriers. It is like the difference between a playground and a cage. Our practice is remembering and holding on to the inner child that lives in all of our hearts, that sees the world like a big playground- eager to participate and ready to find out what everything has to offer. Our inner child reminds us keep it light. To try things, to wonder, to see what happens, and to explore boundaries.

Divine Play, or the concept of Lila in Sanskrit, is the sacred act that we are all both byproducts and co-creators of. The spiritual act and the spiritual nature of interaction for the sake of experience and finding joy and pleasure from experience in its purest form. Circumstance aside. This play, this cosmic dance, between all the different elements and parts, is happening at all times within us and around us at all times. Play is the act of energy coming together sparking the delightful gift of life.

Truthfully, taking this seriously is a rite of passage that we all partake in in one way or another as we evolve. The level at which we connect to our sincerity varies.

And I dare ask the question to myself and to my students- to you the reader:

When we start to take things seriously, to what end? And when it gets so serious that we are losing out on the enjoyment, then what for?

Can we be so serious that we tighten our muscles, clench our jaws, furrow our brows in places where none of those actions are needed? Yes.

Maybe we find good, valid answers to those questions. Justification for being so serious that we no longer enjoy the poses, the practice, the process, the experience, our time here. After all not everything is inherently fun. Nor does everything feel playful. But can we guide our experiences through the channel of our heart which carries them on a higher plane than the limits of our mind and the conditions of our body? Can we find the play in all things as energy collides and interacts? Our practice teaches us that becoming aware of the playfulness within ourselves and all things leads us back to the childlike attitude of light-heartedness at the core of our being. We strengthen our ability to stay more easy-going, curious, and joyful. We are here, conscious and capable, with a pumping heart and bodies full of vital energy to experience ourselves and experience through interplay with our outer world. We play and learn. We play and connect. We play and remember that it’s not all that serious.

On the mat:

Our asana practice is already a play in and of itself. A way in which we move that is, or can be, less conventional than what we do with our bodies throughout the day. Wiggling in and exploring and testing the boundaries of our bodies by connecting ourselves to different shapes, activating muscles to produce a certain result, connecting to our breath and experiencing it dance its way in and out to provide the vital energy needed for us to live.

This week’s practice has been a further exploration of the ways in which we can move and even coloring outside of the lines a bit. Reverting back to a more child-like way of practicing. Encouraging an openness that moves the practice onto a playground where we can be like kids again. Who cares about whether or not we know how to do a pose, let’s play with it! Let’s play in it! Not sure if we can do something? Why not try and find out?

Awareness of Lila is a call to our innate joyful spirits, ready to embrace life and connect with it’s dynamic power. Like a child looking to get the most out of every activity and every experience and everything on the playground, we remember that through play we find ourselves immersed in our experience of being and seeking the most out of it. We know this experience. We know this feeling. The feeling of being so full of wanting and readiness. Present and eager. A truly boundless experience from which the exploration pours itself out of freely. There is less thought, forethought, afterthought. The weight is off of the activity’s shoulders which means a less stress for us and our experience.

When we align our experience of being from an attitude of playfulness and connect to Divine Play, we encourage the mind and the muscles to relax which allow a natural flow of energy to seep into and out of everything we do. It becomes a fluid dance, a fun experiment or a delightful wonder.

And maybe, hopefully, we find ourselves a little more amused or a little more delighted as we move in our bodies and experiment with different postures.

Maybe we find ourselves having more fun along the way.

This is our practice.



Samantha Feinerman